dfkgurl

[mizzax]

hi my names max and dfkgurl was my mom.

ive been meaning to post this here for a while now but things have been really hectic and confusing and it sounds bad but i just kept not getting around to it. sorry.

on april 19th, my mom passed away from a sudden cardiac arrest at home. it was completely out of nowhere. when i realized something really really bad was happening, i called 911 and an ambulance came and took her to the hospital where she passed away within about 30-40 minutes. it was the last thing i wouldve ever expected to happen cos she had pretty good health pretty much her whole life but heart problems like that run in the family. she was so awesome and its so hard to do anything knowing she’s not there. she was seriously the ideal mother. my father lived/lives in atlanta and is very lame in many ways and will always be so we lived alone.

im posting this here cos i know she read here alot and posted a bunch. she really loved the atmosphere of this board and she really loved posting here and reading what you guys said. she’d mention board topics now and then to me in the car and at home and stuff.

sorry it took so long for me to post this.
she loved this board and i thought it would be right for me to tell you all what happened.

thank you.

[Cloud9]

damn, this is so sad to hear <img>

[SG]

Max-welcome to the boards,I wish it was under better circumstances <img> your mom was a very nice person,I enjoyed reading her posts and she had a great love for J`s music and music in general.I remember sending her J`s new song Everybody Let Me Down on AG when she said she had`nt heard it yet,she sent me back a thank you,I`m sure she enjoyed the song.
Thanks for letting us know,take care of yourself <img>

[everyonelovesjaron]

Wow. That’s really sad. Welcome aboard, and very sorry about your mother.

[AGAP]

Max,

I am so sorry to hear about your mom Dfkgurl, actually I really can’t find the words to say just how sad this makes me!!! Really appreciate you taking the time to let us know.

Dfk always had something cool to say, told us about her history with music, how she got into Dinosaur Jr/J & the time she met him in an elevator, her passion for collecting antiques, gardening and you. She was very proud of you, talked about how she introduced you to Dinosaur Jr/J and the competition for the turntable/stereo. She sent out a couple songs on our audiogalaxy group, think she said they were friends of yours The Cadets…great sounds!!!

Dfk was a valued member of this community, she will be missed in huge way. Internet friendships are strange sometimes, they exist in a kinda strange way, minus the physical/personal touch, inspite of all that they are true friendships…I will miss DFK <img> . Your mom touched a lot of people here with her kindness, humor, stories about life, J, You and all things in between, she was very special!!!

Again I want to thank you for letting us know, shows a lot of courage, compassion and understanding…traits no doubt your mom was very proud of!!! Hope you are able to find some peace soon, no doubt it all seems kinda overwhelming and out of control at times. I trust that the Dfkgurl in you will help you thru those times.

She will be missed by all here on FreakScene!!!

Allison <img>

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[malcom]

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I’m not going to try and follow up that post.

[rosa]

Hi Max,

I’m so sorry to hear about your mother, and my friend. Thank you so much for caring enough to keep us informed; we all loved her a lot and will miss her very much. She was so sweet and was one of the few people here who managed not to make any enemies! She always spoke of you fondly and seemed like the epitome of a proud & caring parent.

We’re all pulling for you during this time, and I think I speak for all of us when I say that we’ll be here for you, if you ever need anything. Don’t ever be afraid to ask.

You and your mom are in our thoughts & in our hearts always.

Love,
Rosa

[jasper]

Hi Max,

So sorry to hear about your mother. She was a wonderful member of our Freakscene community; she helped make this place what it was and still is. Our thoughts are with you.

Take care,

Jasper

[Halfman]

Sorry from me too, max. I remember a time she discussed the two of you each having a copy of More Light, and thought, wow, she acted just like my ma does sometimes in bridging that generation gap. My condolences and help are there for the taking. Welcome to Freakscene, nonetheless.

Tom

[FlyingCloud]

Hey Max,
I’m so very sorry to hear this about your mum, and I want to thank you that you let us know.

I remember when dfkgurl told us how she appreciated it, when you were the DJ in the car, and how glad she was that you both had a similar taste in music. When I read her post, I thought how cool it was when you became a member here on the message board, too.

Now, the circumstances are so very sad, but we all would love it, when you’d like to post here and tell us something about your life, your taste in music and your opinion about J Mascis.
All the best wishes to you!
Flying Cloud

[jeremiah]

this is such sad news <img>

I am so sorry for you loss Max. It is definately our loss too. Leslie was such an asset to the community here and I considered her a friend as well. I can also say that your mom spoke highly of you! I’m glad to hear that it sounds like she enjoyed us as much as we enjoyed having her among us.

Thanks for letting us know. I was wondering why I had not seen or heard from her in a while <img> I know you and I have spoken a few times before too and I want to second what Rosa said… If there is anything we can do for you or if you just want some friendly people to talk to count us in!

take care Max and thanks again for letting us know. You will be in our thoughts and prayers.

jeremiah – still in shock <img> <img> <img>

[Bucky Ramone]

That is very sad to hear <img> , I am sure Freakscene will miss dfkgurl, I surely will…..

Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us, and welcome on the board.

from Holland, Ton Bukkems

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[mizzax]

thanks for all your kind words and support everybody, i really appreciate it.

i know my mom would have loved to hear these wonderful things you all are saying about her and without sounding too weird maybe she can read/hear them.

thanks again for all you guys are saying. it really means alot and i appreciate it.

word.

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[Cloud9]

I wanna sleep underneath the weeping willow
As it cries all night quietly
It’s tears all around me
I’ll sleep there so soundly
Until I’m allowed finally
To wake & be happy again
To wake & be happy again

[Mattman]

Sorry to reply to this so late… Free-time’s been a rare commodity for me lately…

I’m sorry to here about your mom. Like everyone else said, she was a beloved member of this community, and will be sorely missed. Also, like the others said, we will do whatever we can to be of any help, should you require it of us.

Something else I’d like to add, and I’m sure I speak for everyone on this… I’m very greatful to you, Max, that you had the insight to tell us all of your mother’s passing. It could have very well been that we would have never known otherwise. It’s somewhat frightening to think that many of us may not have the same situation.

Thank you for keeping us informed in these times of sorrow…

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