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Reminds me of the Rock*A*Teens song I Could`ve Just Died.A guy goes to the wedding of a girl he`s in love with.
Rich always has good advice
"likeaghost" wrote:…alright i need advice, and this seems as good as any place to ask and feel free to respond or ask for advice yourself or…anyway, i just got invited to a wedding of one of my best friends who i am also in love with. I can’t see myself going because i will be sad and probably get drunk and cause a scene. She already told me i didn’t have to go but i know if i miss it i will be sad when we are old and grey.
sorry for the mess.
If there is mention by the Rev. of "if anyone here sees why these two should not…" Then speak up or forever hold your peace. That is your cue to *ahem* make a total fool of yourself but say what you have to say. (If that part of the ceremony still exists anyway
)I’d say: don’t go. You will see her on friendlier, less explosive terms–if you are good friends. This is probably not a moment you’d want in your memory bank. Save yourself the heartache.
"likeaghost" wrote:…alright i need advice, and this seems as good as any place to ask and feel free to respond or ask for advice yourself or…anyway, i just got invited to a wedding of one of my best friends who i am also in love with. I can’t see myself going because i will be sad and probably get drunk and cause a scene. She already told me i didn’t have to go but i know if i miss it i will be sad when we are old and grey.
sorry for the mess.
Thats such a tough spot to be, feel for you
Sounds like you want to remain friends with her for the long term, also sounds like she knows how you feel about her & the marriage. I hope you can be strong if you plan on attending the wedding, if you don’t think thats possible just stop by & pay your respects quickly & leave before the ceremony. That way you can hit the road before things get out of hand emotionally, which could possibly ruin your friendship with her in both the short & long term kinda way.
Good luck with your decision
"SG" wrote:Reminds me of the Rock*A*Teens song I Could`ve Just Died.A guy goes to the wedding of a girl he`s in love with.
Rich always has good adviceI’m not even trying to be humorus, This is you’re last chance, If she gets married you’ll probably see her less and less, and then eventually never again, when kids and all taht come into play. You need to go out like a champ, become legend, It must be done,
Both Rich and Mr Weevil puts forward excellent advices.
I’m also all for going. This will of course make you:
want to spontaniously selfcombust during the ceremony in the church.
blow up the entire building once all the speeches start during the dinner.
not to mention the sudden and wonderful urge to drag the groom by his hair into an empty closet and rip him apart.
But let’s face it, she’s a goner. She’s married for christ sake. And you won’t be able to stay friends with her as long as you’re in love with her and she’s carrying another mans ring on her finger. So go, cry, scream, make a fool of yourself, make a fool of everybody around you and wake up proud of your actions the next day. That’s a legendary way to get closure.
And in 3-5 years she’ll be divorced and when she comes crying for comfort she will be met by your stunning, compassionate and all together girl of our dreams, fiance who’s later to become the first ever poet laureate(sp?) who’s elected playmate of the year and first female president of the us.big boned transexual
if you can’t supress your feelings for her, then you can no longer be friends with her and you can’t go to the wedding … end of story …
say goodbye, wish her luck + move on (sorry, but painful as that may be it is the only solution)… like allison said … it seems she already knows the deal, so i’m sure she won’t be surprised … plus i doubt her husband-to-be will be too cool w/you hanging around longing after his wife !!
hmmm … well, i just read my reply again + it seems very harsh … sorry about that, but let’s just say i’ve been there …
in any case, you guys aren’t friends … you love her and she likes you as a friend … two very different feelings … and not the basis for any friendship …
i know this might sound patronising or far-fetched right now, but one day — when you have a girlfriend or wife — you will look back on this time in your life and well, you’ll be happy in your new situation + you’ll be glad this whole mess is waaay behind you …
good luck in whatever you choose to do …
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